Everybody should learn how to talk dirty.
It makes EVERYTHING more exciting…
…phone calls…
…emails…
…foreplay…
Once you know what you’re doing, it’s like a sexy weapon you can use to drive your lover MAD with desire whenever you want.
Sounds great right?
Well it is, BUT, it’s not something you just gain access to right away.
You don’t memorize a few dirty talk examples and will all of the sudden be transformed into a casanova.
Nope! It takes practice, research, and a little bit of trial and error. Like anything, it’s a skill, and the better you get at a skill the better the results.
So today we’re going to cover a few basics you need to remember about talking dirty so you don’t cause yourself any unnecessary embarrassment!
The first thing you need to remember is, dirty talk is more than just talking dirty. It’s about body language, eye contact, moaning …you are in one way or another letting the other person know you are attracted to them and or like what they are doing.
Think of it as if you just worked really hard preparing a meal for someone. And that person eats it without so much as making a sound. You would be disappointed because it didn’t SEEM as if they enjoyed it right? Most people would Mmmmm and compliment every second bite if they enjoyed it. Dirty talk is the sexual equivalent of that :)
The second thing you need to remember is, sometimes less is more. An imagination is a powerful thing, and because a lot of people ramble when they get nervous, a mistake a lot of people make is they go on and on trying to think of sexy things to say when they end up sounding not sexy at all!! Do your best to only say what you mean, and be thoughtful.
A great way to avoid talking too much, is to ask questions. Let the other person do the talking, especially if you know it’s them that enjoys the dirty talk.
Another thing people often avoid or miss is actually asking your partner what turns them on. People think it’s taboo to ask their partner what gets them off. Why? If someone likes to be told they get turned on when they are told they have a nice ass, wouldn’t you want to know that? Imagine how much that little bit of information would enhance your dirty talk repertoire. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know.
In the early stages of introducing dirty talk into your relationship (or at the beginning of a relationship) I recommend you stick to the basics. Talk about how turned on you get when/thinking about them, how attractive they are to you …about how unique and special they are.
Don’t sound cheesy.
Don’t fake it.
But don’t get caught up in any heavy dialogue or talking about any weird fetishes. If you aren’t prepared or know enough about their boundaries you might cross the line and accidentally offend the person you are trying to turn on. Build up confidence over time.
The last thing you must absolutely remember is, dirty talk is about fun. If you make a mistake, it’s not the end of the world. Your partner will not leave you if you mess up, and if they DO, then really, screw them. Someone who knows how to have fun in bed understands no relationship is perfect. So don’t worry about anything and do it because it adds a WHOLE lot of excitement to your sex life.
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As always, stay sexy!
