Have you ever used role-playing in the bedroom…
You know, maybe the old “bad student / teacher” or “cop / criminal” scenario?
Well if not, you’re missing out, it’s an absolutely blast!
Not only does role-playing add a whole new touch of spice to your sex life, it makes learning how to talk dirty MUCH easier. Because you are living out your fantasies!
Think of how easy it is to talk dirty to someone when you are “in” character.
For example:
Injured man: Nurse, nurse, you have to help me…
Nurse: What is it?
Injured man: I have this problem that just won’t go away, I don’t know what to do and I have to present in a meeting in half an hour!
Nurse: Ok, show me the problem.
*he shows her the “problem” :)*
Nurse: That certainly is a BIG problem …I think I know just how to take care of this…
*CENSORED*
Nurse: It looks like it’s working!
Injured man: Oh it’s working. Where did you learning how to do that
And so on…
It’s easy to have a sexy conversation like that because we are natural actors. And as long as you stay in character, you will do just fine and have lots of fun.
But the biggest problem people have when trying to talk dirty and NOT role-playing is they are embarrassed they are going to say something stupid as they don’t have a predefined role to play.
They think they themselves and quite boring and uncreative.
And it’s much easier to play another character than it is to play yourself. Because when we don’t have a role to mimic or play we over-think and over-analyze things too much. Which, well, doesn’t produce sexy dirty talk at all!
So role-playing is a great way to get started getting comfortable talking dirty. It will take the pressure off of you to come up with unique, natural sounding dirty talk on the spot and instead, you can focus on sexy delivery and eye contact. Because when you are in character and KNOW what to say, it makes it much easier to say your dirty talk with confidence and conviction …which is insanely hot!
The next thing you can do is, create an ALTER-EGO for yourself! Mr or Ms. Suave :)
Someone, who, is never afraid to talk sexy or ask sexy questions. The party starter! That fun person who loves to have great sex and never has awkward moments …who is all about fun and pleasure.
I know that sounds cheesy and cliche, but you should actually give it a try …it’s surprisingly helpful.
If you get a random sexy text message and you don’t know what to say back, ask yourself, what would Mr/Mrs Suave do?
Literally create the perfect version of who you’d want to be in your head and use that to give you ideas of what to say and how to act. Eventually this will come natural for you and you’ll be able to talk like that instantaneously, BUT, it will take time and it will take practice.
Remember that your dirty talk won’t be perfect right away, and don’t aim to be perfect. Your goal with role-playing and talking dirty is to have fun. So have fun. And if you want to learn all the sexy ins and outs of talking dirty get yourself a copy of the dirty talk handbook and drive your lover wild over and over and over again!
Stay sexy,
